Are You Tired of Being Manipulated…
- Are you tired suffering an on-off relationship for what seems like the longest time?
- Are you tired of having to deal with the bad feelings of a breakup?
- Are you tired of old memories that are making your life miserable?
If your answer is ‘Yes’ to any of these questions then I have one thing to say you: It’s not your fault :-).
My name is Alex J. Stevenson and I become happier after getting over my ex.
I was in the same situation as you are right now. I got over my ex girlfriend by using some simple principles based on psychology.
And I am about to reveal those principles to you, and I am quite sure that these will work in your painful situation, too.
I understand how painful it is when it comes to a breakup. I also understand that it’s hard to see someone you loved so much dating someone else.
It’s hard to believe that the person you loved the most has been disrespecting you all the time.
It’s truly hard to discover that your ex has been cheating on you, and denies it whenever you ask them to come clean.
So, without further delay, here are 3 principles which will help you coping with your breakup and getting over your ex:
#1. People Cry Over Split Milk If they’re Unable to Buy a New Bottle Of Milk –
The person who came up with the quote that you shouldn’t cry over spilled milk is a great one. However, if you understand a simple psychology, the way you cry over split milk will change completely.
Let’s assume that somehow you break a bottle of milk. Now you are not going to stop being annoyed about that just by repeating an affirmation like “I should not regret the waste of milk because regret won’t bring me that milk back.”
Do you think that repeating positive affirmations will help you in this case? Probably not!
Now what would happen if you were rich and resourceful enough to buy 10 bottles of milk without worrying about money or resources?
Do you worry about the waste of milk in this case too?
You might be a little sorry for the waste of milk, but you wouldn’t be that worried.
So we come to a conclusion.
People regret losing something only if they believe that there is no replacement for the thing they lost.
So how does that relate to your ex?
Actually you have a limiting belief that your ex was irreplaceable. You lost not only your love but also the source of your happiness.
So there is no way to get love and happiness back in your life:-)
In my training material The Master Training Kit: How to Get Over Your Ex In 14 Days, I say that people normally have a hard time getting over an ex because they have a limiting belief that they won’t find someone as good as their ex.
That means they won’t be able to get love and happiness again in their lives.
#2. You Can Change Your Past –
You may have heard that you can’t change your past?
Did you hear phrases like these -?
“Move on dear, you can’t change your past”
“Accepting what happened is the first step to forgetting the past.”
However, these two phrases are quite right, yet I have another way to change your past without worrying about it.
Moreover, this is a better way to handle past REJECTIONS, HEARTBREAKS, BAD MEMORIES and BREAKUPS.
Now I am going to show you how to change your past so that you won’t regret the end of your relationship with your horrible ex.
This is the story of a guy named Michel. Michel was a hardworking guy but he was going through a rough phase in his life. One day he got fired from his job.
He applied for some other jobs in different companies around his city, but his applications were rejected everywhere. He was depressed and he always felt terrible about losing the job he had.
If Michel didn’t manage to find another job, he would always regret the past.
Now what would happen if he built a company bigger than the company he worked for in the following 5 years?
Would he regret the past in this case, too? Probably not!
Let’s talk about another example. I am sure that you’d better understand from this example.
A guy named Brian Acton applied for a job in Facebook in 2009, but he was rejected. After the rejection from Facebook, he applied for a job in Twitter, but he was rejected again.
In the early 2014, Facebook bought his mobile messaging application for US $19 Billion. He is the co-creator of ‘WhatsApp’.
See what he tweeted after getting rejection from Facebook in 2009 here.
Do you think that Brian still worries about his past? Does he still worry why he was rejected by Facebook in 2009?
Here we come to another conclusion.
If something bad happens in our past, then the way to change our past is to change our future.
If you think that you wasted 5 years with your ex boyfriend/ girlfriend, then you can change your past by managing to get a better one in the future.
Moreover, when you become involved in a better relationship and enjoy a better love life, you will not regret the end of your previous relationship.
#3. They Were Not Your Real Soul Mate –
Are you worrying because you believe that he or she was your soul mate? Now prepare yourself for a socking truth about media and how they make you believe in these distorted facts.
Did you know?
Before 1890 no one knew about Coca-Cola. Today, it’s hard to find a person who doesn’t know what Coca-Cola is.
You know it’s really hard.
Also, Coke is second most recognized word after the the word “Hello”.
This is a good example of how a successful marketing can do anything in this age.
By seeing so many ads of coke on TV, Radio and other places, you unconsciously adopt a thought that the best way to Relax, Refresh and Enjoy is to take coke.
They sell you an idea which increases the value of their product.
And this is what has to do with the soul mate concept.
You have grown up by watching dramas and movies that conveyed the message that there is only one potential partner out there, and if you somehow miss them, you won’t be happy at all.
In reality, there is no perfect or ideal person on this earth. However, there are lots of ALMOST perfect people out there.
So, if you miss one, you can find someone else. Moreover, you can find a better soul mate this time.
(see more Why do we fall in love)
If you believe that your ex was your soul mate, then can I ask you how many times you have fallen in love before?
To emphasize it more, I’d like you to ask you one more question.
If your ex was the real soul mate you were looking for, then why did they hurt you that much?
If you say that they did so because pain is a necessary part of love, then I really have to say that the media have ruined your belief system :-(.
How to Get Over Your Ex Completely
After understanding these three principles, you need to take small steps considering them. Soon you will get over your ex.
Step 1) Delete their old texts –
I am sure that you always check your mobile to see the old texts of your ex, no matter how bad they treated you in the end days of your relationship.
Believe me, you are really going to feel great right after deleting the old texts of your ex.
Keeping their texts on your mobile will only make you trouble more. Just delete them and experience a great relief.
Step 2) No more old videos –
Yes, there is no need to watch old videos and dwell over how great were those days! You can consider this act as suicidal tendency.
When you watch old videos, you will only harm yourself. This is a kind of nastalocia in which your subconscious mind tries to recall old memories so that you can become happy in this troublesome stage.
Step 3) No more sad songs –
If you want to make your life miserable, do just one thing: listen to sad songs right after the breakup.
Most sad songs convey a wrong message that is you can’t be happy without your ex. However, the reality is you can become happier because now you have got rid of your ex.
The songs you listen, the videos you watch and the materials you read have big influence to your subconscious mind.
If you listen, watch and read negative things then how can you assume to do positive things :0?
Instead of listening to sad songs, you should listen to positive songs (see more songs to get over your ex).
Step 4) No more negative self-talk –
When people lose something they deeply want, they become so much negative about themselves. This is also true when you get heartbreaking rejections from the opposite sex.
And the problem becomes ten folds bigger when you get hateful rejection from someone you loved so much.
You always criticize yourself for your faults at this situation. Moreover, you always come up with a list of your shortcomings.
But my dear friend, it’s not a time to criticize yourself too much (see more How to stop dwelling on the past).
Instead you should understand that your self-esteem and ego is already hurting. So is there any need to make it worse?
Stop negative talk to yourself. Or, at least, make it as little as possible. Watch below video.
Step 5) They were not the perfect one –
Most people make a common mistake after a breakup. They dwell over the past great moment of the relationship and idealize their ex as the best love-partner.
However, you should understand that if someone had been breaking your heart for a long time, then you should rest assured that that person was not the best person for love and relationship.
The relationship with that person was not as much amazing as you always wanted.
Considering this you should stop romanticizing your ex and remember their good qualities and the good time you spend with them.
Instead of idealizing of your ex, you should accept the reality of your breakup. If your ex was that good, you didn’t get a breakup.
Step 6) Say goodbye to Facebook for a while –
Sorry Mr. Zuckerberg but Facebook lengthen the breakup recovery process. According to a new post of Dailymail, Facebook make it hard to get over a break and forget an ex.
When a person got a breakup they become said. And when they use Facebook they unconsciously want to see how much their ex is suffering.
If they find that their ex is enjoying their life while they are suffering too much from the breakup they become depressed.
On the other hand, Facebook also let people know what other people are doing. People normally post the photos in which they are smiling and enjoying their lives.
And when a person who is suffering from a bad breakup sees those photos, they become depressed to assume that other people are so much fortunate to enjoy their lives while they are struggling to cope with a breakup :(.
In short, you should say goodbye to Facebook for a while. Don’t secretly want to spy on your ex on Facebook. There is no need to do this.
Step 7) Try to make someone laugh –
The great public speaker Dale Carnegie once said in his book How to Stop Worrying And Start Living that if you want to become happy try to make someone happy.
At present you are too much unhappy because of your ex and the uncertainty about your future. But if you try to make someone happy, you become happier than that person.
Think about how can you make someone happy? This ‘Someone’ could be your maid, servant, a poor guy on the street or anyone you encounter daily.
I have personally used this technique and it really works.
Step 8) Remember bad times with them –
When a person gets a breakup, they always idealize the relationship and think about good moments only.
Doing this makes your subconscious mind believe that you won’t get happiness as long as you won’t bring your ex back.
In reality you know that the relationship was not that much awesome. Instead, it was miserable.
What you need to do right now is to think about bad time of the relationship whenever your subconscious mind tries to make you think about the good ones.
Balance the negativity of the relationship with its positivity. I am sure that you will find that you were getting pain much more than the happiness from the relationship.
A person leaves a relationship only when they find that they are getting pain much more than the happiness from the relationship.
Step 9) Make a list of their annoying traits –
Was your ex your soul mate? If so, then why did they have those annoying traits?
I know that your ex had lots of traits which you didn’t like. You had lots of hateful debates with them about this, hadn’t you?
However, it is pity that you are thinking only good characters of your ex and the good time of the relationship only.
Now make some effort to list their annoying traits. It will help you to move on.
Step 10) Get help from someone who has gone through the same situation –
If you want to become rich, you need to take advice from successful and rich people. Of course, you won’t take advice from poor and unsuccessful people to become richJ.
Likewise, if you want to get over your ex girlfriend or boyfriend, you need to take advice from someone who has already got over their ex successfully.
Not getting help from the right people is a huge mistake. Every person has a different experience. Therefore, taking advantage of someone else experience can be a big advantage to you to get over your ex.
For your help I have created a training material called The Master Training Kit: How to Get Over Your Ex In 14 Days.
You can take advantage of my personal experience from this training material…Click here!
Why is it tough to get over an ex?
In one of my post why is it so hard to get over an ex, I said that people suffer too much while going through a breakup because they unconsciously believe that getting over a loved one is too much tough.
I don’t say that the process of getting over your ex boyfriend or girlfriend is easy. However, it would not be that much hard once you understand certain facts based on psychology.
Click above link and see my post, you’d better understand this.
Changing habits will take some time –
Breaking a habit is always difficult because you spend a great amount of time to build it.
You spent a long time with your ex, thus you developed a habit to spend your time with your ex.
Now your ex is not with you and that is the reason why you are getting wired emotions. This is just a kind of withdrawal symptoms.
Those wired emotions are just pushing you to try to get your ex back so that you needn’t change your habit which is to spend your time with your ex.
So what you need to do right now?
Keep patience 🙂
Yes, you need to keep patience and understand that breaking a habit will take some time. You will experience some wired emotions but they won’t stay for a long time as long as you follow the right path to get over your ex.
For more help to get over your ex see my The Master Training Kit…
The Master Training Kit: How to Get Over Your Ex In 14 Days
There is no rehearsal technique in this training material. All techniques are backed by psychological principles.
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