11 Signs Your Ex Has Moved On – Do You Know These?

It’s not wise hitting your head on a wall while thinking that you will break it. If you are 100% sure that your ex has moved on, then moving on would be better for you, too. Image courtesy of nenetus at FreeDigitalPhotos.net

Would you like to know these 11 signs that your ex has moved on so that you can get over them easily?

If so, keep reading and discover whether they are still into you or not.

If you are in an on/off relationship, it is always confusing to know what is the right decision to take in your relationship. You might not want to lose the relationship.

On the other hand, you also know that you might not be able to be happy in that relationship.

You might try to get over your ex girlfriend or boyfriend, however when you find it difficult for you, you might start trying to get your ex back.

Anyway, when you become sure that your ex has moved on, there is no need to try again to get them back. You need to convince yourself that it’s over. And then, you should move on, too.

Now here are the 11 signs your ex has moved on from you.

1) No emotions towards you –

As long as your ex shows any type of emotions towards you, you have a chance of getting them back. No matter whether they show negative emotions such as hatred, you can still win them back as long as they have any emotions for you.

But when your ex becomes indifference, it is a sure sign that they have moved on. Now they don’t care about you and they don’t think about you (see more How to know if it’s time to breakup).

2) They always keep distant –

One of the sure signs that your ex has lost interest in you is that they always keep distant from you. You may try a lot to keep yourself closer to them, however, if they have moved on they always keep distant from you.

In this case, it may be possible that they act nice, however, they avoid personal talk and keep themselves away from you.

3) Don’t show interest on your texts –

If your ex has moved on, they don’t show any interest over your texts. And it doesn’t matter how much interesting your text was.

Sometimes, they don’t reply your texts and if they do reply to you, the response is either short or late. In all cases, however, they don’t show any interest on your texts.

4) They don’t consistently tell you that they are HAPPY –

If your ex is consistently telling you that they are happy with the breakup and they don’t want you back, then, rest assured that they are not happy. And they want you back badly. If they do this, it means they still care about you.

On the other hand, if they feel that there is no need to show you that they are HAPPY without you, it is a big sign that they have moved on.

People show their happiness with someone they care. If your ex seems not to care about expressing their HAPPINESS, then usually it indicates that they don’t have any feelings for you.

5) They don’t start talk with you –

It’s a very normal concept that the one who is interested in the other one always tries to initiate the talk with that person. In the starting of your relationship, you and your ex always tried to initiate talk with each other.

Now, after the breakup, if your ex never initiates any talk with you, then it is very safe to say that they have moved on.

6) They have involved into a new relationship –

Some people fall into rebound relationship, because they don’t want to experience the trauma of a breakup. And it very common that some people develop rebound relationships right after the breakups.

However, if your ex waited for a while and then they started dating someone else, then it is a sign that they are seeking a serious relationship, not a rebound relationship.

If they are seeking a serious relationship, then it is quite sure that they have recovered from the breakup. Now they don’t want to date someone just to make you jealous. As they are seeking serious relationship, they have moved on.

7) They are not regretful about the breakup –

We normally regret about any past event if it affects the happiness of the present life. This is the psychology of regret. A person normally doesn’t regret about his past misconduct if it isn’t affecting the happiness of his present life.

The same rule applies to your ex. If they don’t show any regret then it simply means that they have moved on – and you should, too.

8) They have deleted  you from their social media profiles –

In today’s world, people spend so much time on social media. This is a platform for them to express their emotions.

Therefore, if your ex has deleted you from their social profiles then they are actually declaring to their social network that they don’t want you back. If they are daring that much, then they are really not willing to restore the relationship.

Did your ex ‘unfriend’ you on Facebook? Did your ex stop following you on Twitter? Did your ex change their relationship status? If so, then this is another big sign that they have moved on.

9) Not calling your name –

When we fall in love with someone, we call the name of that person as many times as we can. However, when we don’t feel for someone, we don’t call their name often.

Usually we use general terms such as he, she, boy or girl for them.

Is your ex calling your name often? If not, they might not have any feelings for you.

10) Their body language demonstrate no interest in you –

Your ex doesn’t show any interest while you are telling something very interesting. Your ex starts yawning when you start talking. Your ex starts looking here and there while you start apologetic or simple talk with them. They do not either give you any answer or short answer.

If your ex shows all these things, then he or she has moved on.

11) They have already told you that they don’t feel for you as they did in the past –

If they have told you this at least twice, then you have no reason to hold on the relationship with them. They are over and you should be over them. That’s it.

Bonus tip –

If your ex shows all these signs and you still believe that they haven’t moved on, then the best thing to do is to contact them and confront it.

In my training material The Master Training Kit: How to Get Over Your Ex In in 14 Days I say that some people don’t get over their exes after years of sufferings because they still keep false hope that their ex will take them back.

You don’t want to keep false hopes for years and later, you discover that your ex has kids with someone else.

If your ex has any feelings for you, they will hardly say ‘no’ when you confront them. And if they confront it that they don’t want you back, then you don’t need to keep false hopes for a reunion. Getting over your ex will be much easier for you thereafter.

So, what you need to do right now?

First off, I congratulate you because you can breathe now. If you were happy in the relationship with your ex, then you would not have broken up. A breakup happens for a reason.

Now you are sure that your ex has moved on, then there is no need to dwell over past. You can’t get your ex back and you should not try to.

Now improve your social skills and then improve yourself. Know what you want from a relationship and then start taking dates. The key thing is you should know yourself better.

So what do you want next?

Get access to my course The Master Training Kit: How to Get Over Your Ex In 14 Days


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Alex J. Stevenson

Alex J. Stevenson isn't a PhD holder on psychology. However, he better understand how to use psychology in real life to forget an ex and feel good.   By doing so, he has helped thousands of men and women to get over their exes (see praise here).   If you've been struggling to get over your ex, get access to his training material The Master training Kit: How to Get Over Your Ex In 14 Days. He guarantees that you will recover from your breakup, or else your money will be refunded.


  • AKing

    November 17, 2015

    Interesting points. Nice read.

  • Liz

    November 25, 2015

    Thank you for the post!

  • Alex J. Stevenson

    December 6, 2015

    I am glad that you liked it. 🙂

  • Melita

    January 18, 2016

    Wow! I scored 10/11. Now it’s high time. Need to move on badly. Thanks for the article 🙂

  • Alex J. Stevenson

    January 24, 2016

    Thanks for your comment Metita. If you scored 10/11 then their is really not any need to waste your time and energy on getting your ex back.:-)
    I wish your get over your ex soon.

  • Alex J. Stevenson

    January 29, 2016

    You are most welcome! 🙂

  • Angry Ex

    February 10, 2016

    My ex did all that. I thought he hated me and was over me.
    I looked at his diary for the past 3 years and it turns out he was and still is very much in love with me. Apparently his ego wouldn’t allow him to talk to me, he would only show me anger each time I tried to approach him over the years.

    He was very much in love with me despite showing all signs of a man moving on. Too bad, his stupid ego didn’t stop my pain because I’m not interested in stopping his pain right now

    Good thing once you release these old loves, better true love arrives, believe it and it will come. Have faith. My true love arrived and I have my ex to thank for it. Had he contacted me, I would have been with him instead of my new King.

    The best is yet to come fellow heartbroken people.

  • Alex J. Stevenson

    February 12, 2016

    Hi Angry Ex 🙂

    Thanks for sharing your story here. I am sure that your advice will also help others who are struggling to get over an ex.

  • Vicki Horan

    June 14, 2016

    I’m married to my husband he has cheated on me he has blocked me, and he didn’t give me my half credit. He owes me. I’m suppose to get my stuff and he told me he got another phoned it’s going be a blocked number and he was suppose arrange to get my stuff out of there. We were go marriage counselling, he chose her over me. He’s had a lot relationship. I’m pregnant with his child now I’m sleeping a lot. He’s avoiding me and not communicating me. He should be doing that what do I do?

  • Alex J. Stevenson

    June 14, 2016

    Hi Vicki,

    I am sure that all these things weren’t happen in one day. Things were going from bad to worse for a long time.

    As you both were went for marriage counselling, your counselor would better understand both of you. As for as I can see that he has cheated on you multiple times, you would introspect whether it is worth trying to save your marriage or not.

    What will be happen after 5 years from now if you both are still together? Will he still give you respect and appreciation of a wife? Or will he dump you for another ones?

    Are you still with your husband because you think that no one appreciate you except your husband? If so, you need to learn why we fall in love with someone.

    Being pregnant with someone’s child is a sensational issue. However, when you are searching for the information on signs to know whether your partner has moved on or not, then you need to analyze your current circumstance more logically.

    Good Luck!

  • Blaming himself

    July 5, 2016

    Hi Alex, Hope I can get some insights.. I am so lost.. I feel I’m the one to blame and then I lost the love of my life because of my stupid insecurity..

    My Story is long, hope you’ll be able to get through it! 😉

    Hope I can get good insights.. Was with my Ex, we met through my best friend who was sick at the hospital.. they knew each other about 3 months before me, work together and becaue ‘friends’ she was at the hospital every time she could for him.. to the point that his mom said that my Ex might have begun to feel closer to him.. developing feelings. My Ex-girlfriend comes from a hard past, lived for 15 years with a Narcissist EX. It took her 2 years to get away with the help of her therapist.. but now I begin to wonder if she doesn’t have symptoms that.. she might be controlling, selfish and narcissist traits..)

    Ok so the first two months, honeymoon phase, all is going well.. I was at my best and she craved me! Then, one night, went to dinner with my “best friend” that’s working with her and they have meetings every 3 months that they sleep in hotels, for work colleagues only 🙁

    He asked me how things are going: I said wonderful and happy! Instead of being happy for me, he told me: you are lucky to have her. If I had slept with her last time at our meeting that she was so drunk that she passed out, you wouldn’t be with her today. (I was like: WTHeck??)

    I said: but there is another woman with you at the same time to help her get into her bed: he told me: you know how easy it is to tell her to go and that I’ll take care of her..(so for me, if she was too drunk, it would be a rape! 🙁 I couldn’t believe all that crap that came all of a sudden from my BEST FRIEND!) I asked him why he told me all of this crap! he answered that he didn’t know. (??)

    He had a GF at the time, but it wasn’t going well, I asked him if he was jealous of my happiness, he told me no.. so..

    From that point on.. I became Anxious, insecure, paranoid every time they went to their meetings every 3 months.. My GF tried to reassure me: he’s not my type (when my friend’s mother told him she began to feel interested), you’re the one that I’m with.
    When we were at the hospital and I told him I’m interested to know about her, he was like: but she’s not your type, she’s got a big ass! I said I don’t care, he said: she has 2 kids!! I said I don’t care..

    The question is: why did he told me all of this, if he knew that I would react badly.. and he knows me for 20 years, so he know by telling me thing, I would start to freak out!

    To the point that my GF, even if they never slept with each other? (I will never know) she was at the receiving end and she never deserved that I changed from secure to insecure. So now, every 3 months, there was an awful week where I was pouting, not telling her to have a good time, even if I was thinking it, and she began to resent me.. we lasted 16 months. Some says she has issues with her past, avoidance and emotionnally unavailable, but maybe she closed herself because I became insecure? (behind my back, I learned she was confiding in him instead of me even before that event happened) but I know I’m the one who let myself to be vulnerable to the one I trusted the most, and became corrupted by these thoughts he said to me, which still as of today, I’m trying to find the answers.. To close that chapter.

    My EX-GF told me to consult, and I did. (she’s the first woman that made me want to do it! Because I knew she was worth it!)

    Thing is.. we then had 2 different therapist, which we should have gotten only one. She let go of me, didn’t support me through this event!! Because her own Psychologist told her if she were to support me through this, she would have to take anti-depressant pills! 🙁 so of course the choice is evident, and I felt I was having a relationship with her therapist more than her at some point..

    So yeah, it’s easy between the 2 choices given, to let go of the person you love.

    I never wanted to have trust issues, I had trust into her, but if she was drunk over there, I didn’t trust my Best friend.. I became so lost into all of this, I couldn’t believe I became that insecure.. and.. I snooped over her, she gave me her password for her accounts when things started to get sour after 2 months, as proof that she has nothing to hide, I gave her mine, she refused because she trusted me.. so.. in order to show her I trust her, I never checked.. until she let me go the first time.

    At some point during the relationship, I asked her to see her phone, and.. she became very defensive, saying that even if I didn’t find anything, she would feel it’s a breach of trust.. so.. she got me there, I didn,t check.. Instead of being open and transparent with me, which would have reassured me.. and she changed her cell phone password and went to the toilet with her phone, not answering in front of me when someone was calling..

    In the end she was more and more distant, on her phone, secretive, smiling when receiving text, she was giving love to her dad and daughters, even the cat had cuddles and got love more than me, she knew what I wanted and she blatantly didn’t give it to me, as a form of control or vengeance for resenting me losing myself and not being the secure guy anymore?

    – Am I the one at fault here? That is my biggest question..

    Then I saw their conversation, and at some point my best friend told her everything I was telling her! So I confirmed some stuff.. we went back together after 3 weeks, I saw she was checking other man on Facebook.. when she told me she wanted exclusivity even if we are not together.. (that was weird)

    Nevertheless, she was testing me to see if I changed, stopped being insecure.. but since she didn’t invest herself 100% for the second time (she said no more text messages, calla, surprise visit are a no-no, we will see each other only once per week), I knew something was off, and I was still insecure..

    So guess what.. I failed her test of taking things slowly.. and I regret it! Now that I’m back to myself, I really want to prove her that the changes are real this time around.. but I fear she moved on and do not want anything from me, as she found out that I was checking her accounts. I never used a proxy or VPN to hide I was checking.

    Then she said she could never trust me again. All the time together, she gave me the silent treatment, stonewalling, I tried to make her open, but she was closed. she knew it would drive me nuts, so yeah, I’m not the only one guilty of this toxic relationship, but.. I still have in my mind the:

    – What if my best friend would have never told me this, today we would still be happy together.. *the first time she left me, he was mad at her.. saying she abused of me, was a taker and loved all the attention I gave to her since she didn’t get any from her Narcissist ex.. (I gave her lots, massages, gifts, trips, cuddling, compliments, and that’s how I am when in love, I’m not asking for her to give me the same amount but.. she reciprocated 10% of the time, sometimes not even a thank you, taking me for granted)

    He said to move on, that she won’t take me back.. (what this part of his plans to break us up so he could go with her? Am I just making these scenarios because of the fear when he said he would sleep with her but my EX-GF told me that she never slept with anyone else than me..) but she did come back! So I don’t know what’s she’s thinking and saying, it seems 2 different things..

    My sister talked to her lately, and.. she told my sister that she would be ready to work things out if, after a few months, I could show her that I’ve changed, because she still loves me and she’s attracted to me.. but my best friend talk to her about it, and.. she answered that my sister took it the wrong way, and that she never wanna see me or talk to me again.. Really, I don’t know what to think of it. (who to trust in here! why my best friend is acting that way, he said all he told her seems congruent, when I deliberately prove him otherwise more than once!)

    I wish I could show her the real me, secure, without my best friends between us 2 (he was her confident as well..)

    So, I saw that she rearranged all her furniture, the bed is not at the same place, she thew out everything that made her think of me, including the blue rose that I gave her, she kept it even after the 1st breakup, but now, the 2nd chance that I failed.. she threw it out, as if she thinks I will never change and it’s time for her to give up hope and move on.. deep inside I know she’s an awesome woman, and that all she was asking is for me to stay strong no matter what’s happening.. and then she would have open up and let herself go, because she felt vulnerable in the past, and.. she wanted it to work very much with me.

    *Since I tried to communicate with her, and it was hurting her to see my name on her cell phone, she send me a Warning Notice to stop contacting her.. :'(

    *I met her 3 days ago, she came to me so she used her usual double standard: don’t worry, I went to talk to you, not the opposite, so don’t worry..

    We talked, she said: do you really believe me and your friend slept together? She laughed. She said: You’re the only one I slept with. As well, I love you 100% but my way of expressing it to you, and your way of interpret it made it so that you didn’t feel loved enough and that I couldn’t do anything to convince you of my love..

    (That’s why I feel I’m to blame, that she’s an angel and that I was not able to see it because of my friend’s fears implanted.. *a friend should have been happy for my relationship right?)

    – Should I hang on to a possible “third chance” in months to come, like she mentioned it was too quick for our 2nd chance, maybe if it was at the end of the summer..

    But since I cannot contact her, how can this be possible..

    I don’t know what to think..

    I’ve cut the story, thanks for your reading and inputs are more than welcome!

    Thank you very much for your time.

  • Alex J. Stevenson

    July 6, 2016


    I read full story, and it reminded me my old days. 🙂

    If everything your wrote here is right, then I doubt that she had slept with your friend. When I went through your story, I found that you had so many misconceptions about love and relationship which were ruining your life.

    In my training material The Master Training Kit: How to Get Over Your Ex In 14 Days, I show my customers how to judge whether they should try for a second chance or not if their partner has cheated on them. I also tell the psychology of cheaters and why they become cheaters.

    As you said that you had taken consultancy of a counsellor, I doubt the ability of the counsellor because if he was a good one, you didn’t have to suffer a lot thereafter.

    However, it seems that you are still suffering a lot, it means that your counsellor didn’t did their work properly.

    Lastly, if I were you, I wouldn’t try for a third chance because breakups happens for a reason. If you both were happy together, you didn’t separated. And you both wouldn’t have to see counsellors to help you to forget each other.

    Your story grabbed my extra attention, therefore I also sent you a personal message. Please check it. 🙂

  • Kurtis

    July 10, 2016

    Hi Alex, me and my ex were together for 11 months. 9 months were very good but the last 2 months we had trust issues and always fought.

    My ex only shows number 5 on the list and that’s because I would constantly beg for her back so she would assume I would text her but it’s been 16 days since I last contacted her.

    When I said that I was seeing someone else, she got all emotional and she would always tell me to move on.

    She found a guy on tinder (lives 40 mins away) and I think it’s a rebound because they started talking 10 days after our break up but they are both going off to school after summer living 1 hr 15 mins away.

    I was thinking of not contacting her until 1 month into school which would be 3 months total for no contact. Any advice would be great!

  • Alex J. Stevenson

    July 14, 2016

    Hi Kurtis,

    As she had already told you to move on, you should not keep false hope to get her back. Moreover, she has already got someone new, what else you need to know that she doesn’t feel for you.
    If you were not a priority to her while you both were in a relationship, you will not become a priority to her while she already has another option.

    In my opinion, it is better to move on rather than trying to get her. Even if you get her back, you will not get her for life. 🙂

  • Stacey

    July 19, 2016

    Hi Alex,

    Me and my ex were together for over a year and a half. My ex-boyfriend broke up back in March – he ended it because he said long distance was too difficult and he said that he wanted to be with me all the time.

    I literally had just got back home from being with him for two months straight when he ended it.

    After the breakup, he still contacted me (he was almost always the first one to initiate contact and almost everyday) then after his birthday, all contact stopped.

    We hadn’t spoken for a month until yesterday, when I found out he has been dating this new girl… who lives in ANOTHER COUNTRY.

    He said they had met at a bar and instantly clicked, he also slept with her. But when we got together, we were still talking – he’d tell me he still loves me, how amazing I was and how he missed me.

    Now when I found out, he told me it’s different with her and he doesn’t need to be in constant communication all the time though he told me a part of him will always love me.

    He claims to like the privacy as they don’t talk much throughout the day. He told me that she already bought her ticket to come see him in January. What should I think of this? How can I move on from this? Any advice would be great 🙂

  • Alex J. Stevenson

    July 27, 2016

    Hi Stacey

    I am sorry about your situation. As your question is much related to your ex boyfriend, I have not enough to say. The details your provided here is not enough for me to come to any conclusion about your ex.

    I suggest you to see a counselor, they would better help you.

    As far as what I see from your story is your ex likes you, however there is something he deeply wanted from the relationship and you were not able to provide that thing to him.

    It may be Respect, Appreciation or any physical attractiveness quality. He met another girl and it seems that she was meeting some of those qualities he was looking at you.

    If you try to win him back (and actually win him back) but you are unable to provide those things (qualities) to him, then there are possibilities that he might cheat on you again in future.

    To understand this concept better, read my lasted article ‘Why do we fall in love with someone’ on this website.

  • David

    August 2, 2016


    I have been married 30 years. My W dropped the bomb one year ago that she has no feelings for me, does not love me and wants a divorce. She said that she had pretended to love me for 11 years for the sake of our kids. Her love went away 11 years ago because of career/financial challenges I had then and how I treated her (not like a partner; also that I refused to see a counselor (thinking it was a waste of time). The ensuing 11 years found us drifting apart until 2011 when she began a 2 yr affair with the next door neighbor. They were discovered and she confessed to me in 2013. I forgave her and began in earnest to repair our marriage. Thought I was doing a good job too. In June of last year I had new career challenges and caused me to briefly return to past behaviors toward my W. That combined with the discovery that her elderly Mom was being treated emotionally badly by her Dad…was the last straw and she said she was done with me. Since I have tried everything I know to be a better me (counseling, priest, self help books and courses). Throughout have tried to treat her with kindness and love…made very difficult as she treated me without care and little compassion, anger and of late indifference. I have tried to “Let Her Go” 3 times but keep coming back as I do not believe in divorce and pray that she will change her mind. My wife has assures me there is not another man. She says she is at peace and has moved on. I find myself struggling with “how could she be at peace when she has caused so much pain to me (which she does not care for anyway) to our 4 young adult kids; our families and our friends. I truly love her and strongly believe we could create a new marriage together that we both would find rewarding. She has done nothing to help me try to save our marriage. Arggh…it is so painful. All of this so she can be ‘happy’ and live an ‘authentic lif’…whatever that is.

  • Alex J. Stevenson

    November 27, 2016

    Hi David,

    I read your comment, and I can understand your situation. I would like to quote this line:

    “She has done nothing to help me try to save our marriage.”

    David, this is what you think and this is not WHAT SHE THINK. Normally, we give more value to our own perspective, and we neglect the fact that other one may have a different perspective.

    If she has find another one, then the situation is really tough. I would suggest you to seek a counselor, he would better guide you whether to move on or hold on.

    However, if you have made your decision to move on then you can Try The Master Training Kit. It won’t cost you much.

    Good Luck!

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