Breaking Up With Someone You Still Love – How to Do It Correctly

how to break up with someone you still love

Breaking up with someone you still love greatly depends on how early you accept the reality instead of daydreaming of what it would be like.

In life, sometimes you find that you have been suffering from a mistake you made in your past. It is really hunting that you can’t fix that mistake.

When it comes to relationships, it’s really hunting to know that you can’t be happy with your partner however you believe that you can’t live without him or her.

Breaking up with someone you still love is very typical. For an instant, you think that you can’t be happy with your partner because of so many reasons (see more how to feel better after a breakup).

On the other hand, you think that you can’t break up with them because you love them so much.

I was in the same situation, and I successfully got over her after applying some psychological principles. Rest assured that you are really going to lessen your worry to a great extent.

How to break up with someone you still love

Tip 1. Don’t imagine having a relationship with your partner –

Breaking up with someone you still love is really hard when you have to face your partner on a daily basis.

For example, if you both live in the same apartment, building or you both work in same office then it’s really tough to break up.

In this case, you should make sure that you should stop your mind to think about having a relationship with your partner while you see them.

On the other hand, when you are in an one-sided love, you start thinking how you can have a relationship with that person whenever you see them (see more Recovery from a breakup).

This happens in unconscious level. Therefore, you need to make conscious efforts to stop your mind to think to do so.

The rule of the thumb is you shouldn’t associate any emotions with them while you see them.

Moreover, you must not allow your mind to think about having a good relationship with them in future.

Tip 2. Understand that you might not have love them in the first place –

In my Master Training Kit: How to Get Over Your Ex In 14 Days, I say that in a bad relationship or in one-sided love, people don’t attach the other person because they really love them.

They attached with the other person because they resembled the personality of someone they fall in love with in the past.

To make it clearer, see the example of Maria.

Maria feels so much attraction towards Gavin because he resembles the personality of her loving father.

The subconscious mind of Maria finds that Gavin has similar personality as her father has.

And Maria loves her father so much, therefore her subconscious mind make her believe that Gavin will be a good partner.

Moreover, Maria thinks that if she gets Gavin then he will make her as happier as her father used to make her.

In result, the subconscious mind of Maria makes her feel tremendous amount of attraction towards Gavin.

Later, Maria finds that Gavin is far different than her father in many traits, and their relationship becomes an ultimate source of bad emotions.

This is not just a story of Maria. This is the story of most of us.

Whenever we encounter someone of opposite sex who resembles the personality of someone who used to make us happy, our subconscious mind make a quick guess that that person can be a good potential partner.

Lesson to learn –

If you are in one sided love, then you might feel attraction towards the other person because he or she resembles the personality of someone you fell in love with in your past.

It might be your parent, a lovable uncle or one of your old friends who used to make you feel good.

So you don’t love that person. Don’t misinterpret attraction into love.

If you are in a bad relationship, then the reason I described above might be the reason why you are unhappy with your relationship.

In both cases, you just need to remind yourself that you really don’t love the other person; you just misinterpreted attraction into love. That’s it.

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About The Author

Alex J. Stevenson

Alex J. Stevenson isn't a PhD holder on psychology. However, he better understand how to use psychology in real life to forget an ex and feel good.   By doing so, he has helped thousands of men and women to get over their exes (see praise here).   If you've been struggling to get over your ex, get access to his training material The Master training Kit: How to Get Over Your Ex In 14 Days. He guarantees that you will recover from your breakup, or else your money will be refunded.

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