Would you like to get over your post-breakup depression in only three steps? If so, keep reading.
In order to deal with your post breakup depression, first, you need to understand what depression is.
Besides psychology, if we talk about depression in general terms, then depression is considered a condition in which your subconscious mind believes that you have lost something which is very important to you. And there is very little hope to get that thing back.
Think about the people who invest their money on stock market, when stock market crashes, they become depressed because money is highly important to them.
In this situation, their subconscious minds believe that there is very little possibility to get back the money they lost.
Your level of depression depends on how important the thing you lost was to you.
Now, analyze your post-breakup depression –
Considering the above example, you can say that you are being depressed because you lost a precious partner you didn’t want to lose.
You might have wanted to spend your life with them, however the situation was not in your favor. You still want to get your ex back, however, there is very little possibility to get them back. That’s the reason why you are depressed.
A person, who loves money, becomes depressed when he loses his money.
A person, who loves their partner, becomes depressed when they lose them after a breakup.
How can anybody get over depression?
The best way to get over depression is to find a way to get the thing back that you lost.
However, it is not always possible that you can get the thing back you lost. In this case, you should try to find an alternative and focus on getting that.
For example, if someone lost their money in the stock market, then the best way for him to get over his depression is to find a way to get his money back.
However, if he finds that there is no way to get his money back from the stock market, then, he should try to find another way to get more money than what he lost in the stock market.
What would happen if that person starts making more money from another business thereafter? Wouldn’t his depression go away? Of course.
How to get over breakup depression?
In order to get over post-breakup depression, you will need to do something similar to the example listed above.
What would happen if you get a better partner after the breakup? You would be able to rise above the depression (Use Convince your ‘S’ Technique to get a better partner after the breakup) .
However, it is not that easy always. The person, who still has feelings for their ex, is usually unable to see the possibility of finding a better partner.
The reason behind this is that they are still too attached to their ex and therefore, they cannot enter into another relationship.
They don’t accept that their partner has left them and they still have hopes that they will be re-united. However, that hope is usually very slim.
Three steps to get over the depression of a breakup –
once you understand the psychology of depression, you need to follow these three steps to get over your post breakup depression.
Step 1) Accept that you are broken-up –
What would happen if the person who has lost his money on stock market never accepts that he has actually lost it?
He will remain depressed and he will never try to find other ways to make more money than what he lost.
In the same way, this happens while you are dealing with a breakup. If you never accept that the person you lost is gone forever, then, you won’t start seeing someone else and you will remain attached to your ex – even if they have moved on.
Let’s say that there is only a 3% chance that you can get your ex back and a 97% chance that you can’t get them back. In this case, the 3% chance is causing you depression.
In other words, this 3% chance of getting back together with your ex is preventing you from moving forward.
However, if there is 0% chance that you will ever back together, it may be easier for you to accept the breakup.
It is very common that people recover from the death of a loved one sooner than a breakup. It is because in the first case, people are 100% sure that there is 0% chance to get back that person from death.
The second thing you should understand is that you need to have hope that you will end up having a better partner/relationship than you did with your ex. If you don’t have hope for a better partner, your mind will keep you focused on the past.
In short, 1) you should focus on losing all hope to get your ex back and 2) find hope that you will find someone better.
Step 2) Avoid visualizing your ex –
Don’t daydream that your ex returning to you because the more you daydream, the harder it will be for you to accept that there is absolutely no chance to get your ex back.
Instead of visualizing your ex, you should do things which can prove to you that the relationship is final such as burning old photographs and deleting old videos of them.
Step 3) Look for alternatives –
Once you do these two steps, you should remind yourself that your ex was not the best person out there. After all, if they were, most of your colleagues would have fallen in love with them.
You should also remind yourself that you can attract someone better than your ex. After all, you have now experienced a relationship and you understand your needs and wants much better than you did before.
Therefore, now you have better chances of attracting and dating someone who is much better for you than your ex was.
For this, you need to change your life-style in a way which can allow you to meet new people.
If you stay home all day watching soap operas, then, you should ask yourself how will you meet another partner?
You need to meet new people. And once you can attract someone better than your ex, the depression from the breakup will gradually fade away.
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