How to Feel Better After a Breakup – Understand Psychology

In order to know how to feel better after a breakup, you must understand why you are feeling worse after a breakup.

how to feel better after a breakup

Don’t worry! Everyone feels bad after a breakup. However, if you fix your beliefs about break up, you won’t feel bad that much.

This might be a little wired for you to think this way.

However it is better than keeping yourself busy at work after a breakup (See more What to do after a breakup).

Do you know keeping yourself busy at work might be one of the worst things you could do to deal with a breakup?

So, why are you unhappy now? Guess what?

It is because you are unable to fill the emptiness which comes due to the absence of a relationship.

Let’s talk about a story of a guy named Braden. Braden is a guy who smokes too much. One day he decided to quit smoking.

Now tell me what is the key problem he will face while he tries to quit smoking?

The key problem he will face is the tremendous amount of bad emotions which is caused by the absence of cigarettes.

Braden is addicted to cigarettes, therefore spending any day without cigarettes creates big emptiness in his life.

So what does this have to do with how to feel better after a breakup?

Actually, you are addicted to your ex and in order to feel better after a breakup you need to deal with the bad emotions which caused by the absence of a relationship.

In other words, your are terrified by emptiness.

In order to fill that emptiness and deal with those bad emotions you can do below things:

#1. Get nurturing –

Being nurtured is one of the biggest things a person gets from a relationship. Most people feel really bad right after the breakup because they just lost a big source of nurturing.

Do you know some people dwell over their first love for a long time just because their are unable to meet someone who can take care of them.

If you lost your ex and want to feel good, you need to get nurturing  from somewhere else.

Now this is the best time to call your parents and ask them for a dinner. Take them out for a trip.

And in return you will get nurture and care from them, too. You will really feel great thereafter.

#2. Try to fill that emptiness by something else –

Do you know Braden can fill the emptiness which comes while he doesn’t smoke by using an electric cigarettes.

By doing so, he provides an alternative for what his subconscious mind is demanding.

You can also fill your emptiness which cause by the lost of a relationship by fixing your relationship with your friends.

Reconnect with the friends you have been ignoring since you got your ex (see more How to recover from a break up quickly).

 #3. Now you can breathe –

Do you know that now you can breathe? Now you don’t need to do things considering what your ex wants. Think this way and you will soon feel better.

When people stay in a bad relationship, they always suffer a lot. They sacrifice their own things just to make their partner happy.

Surprisingly, the other person don’t see the sacrifice his or her partner does.

So do you need to worry about someone who doesn’t appreciate what you do for him or her? Of course not, you are better without him/her.

#4. Consider your happiness level –

Normally, I don’t talk about my personal experience when it comes to talking about how to get over your ex.

I prefer to talk about the points which are proven by modern psychologists.

But what I am going to talk about is really helpful for anyone who is moving on after a breakup.

If your ex broke up with you, then I am 100% sure that it was not the first time when your ex did so. You had been in an on-off relationship for a long time.

Now think about the time when you were not with your ex, what was your happiness level at that time? Was it better than the time when you were with your ex? If so, you are soon becoming happier again.

#5. Break the anchors – 

In my training material The Master Training Kit: How to Get Over Your Ex In 14 Days I said that breaking anchors is one of the best things you should do to get over your ex.

For some people, dealing with a breakup is really hard not because they love their ex so much, it is just because everything reminds them about their ex.

You already know that you can’t be happy with your ex, however when they are not with you, everything reminds you about them. Doesn’t it?

In order to feel better after a breakup you need to break those anchors which remind you about your ex and old relationship.

For an example, if you used to go to a certain park when you were with your ex then you need to stop thinking about your ex whenever you go to that park.

In the starting, it might be a little hard for you, but with conscious efforts you can break all the anchors you associated with your ex.

Feeling better after a break up is directly depends on how early and easily you fill the vacuum which is made by a loss of a relationship.

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About The Author

Alex J. Stevenson

Alex J. Stevenson isn't a PhD holder on psychology. However, he better understand how to use psychology in real life to forget an ex and feel good.   By doing so, he has helped thousands of men and women to get over their exes (see praise here).   If you've been struggling to get over your ex, get access to his training material The Master training Kit: How to Get Over Your Ex In 14 Days. He guarantees that you will recover from your breakup, or else your money will be refunded.

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