If you came to this page then it means that you are struggling with any of below questions:
- How to find love again after being hurt
- How to find love again after a breakup
- How to find love again after divorce
In any of those cases, you need to understand what the love is.
There are so many misconceptions about love out there. Many divorces and breakups have happened due to lack of understanding of love.
Some people suffer a lot to forget their first love, and some other have to deal with relationship dissatisfaction while they are still in a relationship. Normally, these things happen due to lack of understandings people have about love.
What is love?
If I were a romantic poet, I would say that love is so and so. I am unhappy because haven’t met my love yet. I will become happy once I find my love.
However, I am not a poet and I will not give you any incorrect belief just to make you feel more romantic and sadder.
Let’s talk about a girl named Sandy. Sandy is a girl who is raised by one parent. Her mother died when she was still a child. She hates her father because she believes that her father doesn’t give her that much attention. So, her biggest unmet need is being nursed. She has been facing down time for a long time.
One day, she was invited by her cousin to go on a tour with her colleagues.
When they go for the tour, Sandy meets a guy named Sam. Sam makes her feel happy and he gives her his full attention.
Now the subconscious mind of Sandy makes her think that she becomes happy in the presence of Sam. And in order to be happy, she needs to stay close to Sam.
That’s the point when subconscious mind of Sandy triggers the emotions of love in the mind of Sandy for Sam.
Love is nothing more than an emotion which created by your subconscious mind to make you stay close to the person whose presence makes you feels good.
According to some biologist, some chemical changes also happen during the earlier stage of falling in love.
These chemicals are responsible for the special feelings you feel during the starting of a relationship.
Why do you fall in love with a certain person and not with the other ones?
You might ask this question after the explanation of love you just read. In my training Material The Master Training Kit: How to Get Over Your Ex In 14 Days, I say that we mostly fall in love with someone based on below things.
- Our unmet needs
- Our values in life
- Our past experience
- Our current situation
- And the time when that person enters in our life
We all have different past experience and unmet needs. Therefore, we fall in love with different persons.
A poor girl might have an unmet of becoming rich while a rich girl might have a different unmet need which doesn’t depend on money.
You may have heard some stories in which a girl from a highly rich family fall in love with a poor guy. Whenever you hear this type of story you might think that the girl was idiot.
Do you know why you think so? It is because Money might be an unmet need for you, but not for her.
So what all these have to do with how to find love again after a breakup or divorce?
Instead of giving you superficial advice like ‘Join online dating sites’ or ‘Meet new people’, I want you to adopt correct beliefs about love and then you need to work on the other things.
First you need to understand why we fall in love with someone. Thereafter, you need to make a list of your unmet needs and what you want from your potential partner.
Once you make that list, you need to adjust and modify it a little bit in next few days.
And then you need to try to find love again. By doing so, you would better find your true soul mate this time (See more How to forget someone you love).
Advertise yourself –
If you stay all day at home then don’t expect that someone come from TV and will say you, “Hey, you are my true soul mate”.
You need to advertise yourself that you are single and you would like to date someone.
Go to the places –
If you want that your partner should be a religious person then you should better go to Church than a Bar.
You need to understand which type of person you would like to date and then you need to go to the places where you may meet them.
How to find love again? It greatly depends on how early you accept the breakup or divorce, how soon you understand what the love is, and how to make yourself available to your potential partner.
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