How to Stop Loving Someone Who Doesn’t Love You

how to stop loving someone who doesn't love you

It’s not your fault if you LOVE someone who doesn’t love you. So stop punishing yourself for being fallen in love with that person.

So, you are wondering how to stop loving someone who doesn’t love you. Don’t you?

One part of your mind says that you can get that person back.

On the other hand, the other part says that you can’t get that person at all.

The main reason why you are unable to stop loving someone who doesn’t love you is that you don’t accept that you can’t get that person.

You always daydream that you having a great time with that person (see previous post for more info).

Loving someone who doesn’t love you is a psychological problem, and you can’t fix it by just keeping yourself busy at work.

If you are suffering from this emotional problem, then follow below tips.

Tip 1. The first step is accepting that you can’t have that person –

This is the first step that you fully convince yourself that you can’t get that person. Repeating the phrases like “I can’t get them in my life” will help you a lot.

It will also program your subconscious mind to believe on that fact.

Once you convince your subconscious mind, half of the work will be done. And you will forget your ex soon.

Tip 2. Get rid of the things which remind of them –

If they gave you some things, then it is the time to get rid of those items. Don’t keep anything which reminds you about that person.

Eat the chocolates, remove the texts, and burn the photographs and do whatsoever you can to get rid of the things which remind about them.

Tip 3. Prevent yourself to think about them –

Here you need to make conscious efforts to prevent yourself to think about them whenever you see them. Though, it is not easy, yet you need to do it.

Some guys start visualizing having a good relationship with their cruse whenever they see her. Some others go a little further and they spend whole day visualizing about their cruse (or ex).

Don’t supply water to a seed and give it opportunity to make itself bigger. Prevent yourself to think about that person who doesn’t love you back (See more how to recover from a breakup quickly).

Tip 4. Is he or she the best person on the earth –?

Ask above question to yourself. I am sure that your answer will be ‘No’. If he or she would be the best person on the earth then plenty of people would have fallen in love with him or her.

The person you are dying for is not the best person on the earth. Moreover, that person is not even the best person on your city.

Therefore, it is highly possible that you can find someone far better than the person you love so much at this time.

When it comes to learning how to stop loving someone who doesn’t love you back, you must understand that you should have hope that you can find someone better than the person you love now.

Tip 5. Don’t program your mind to be obsessed with that person –

Don’t do things considering the happiness of that person. Don’t make them the center of your life.

I know that you want to keep yourself closer to them because their presence somehow makes you feel good.

And that is a big reason why you still love them. However, doing so will make you obsess with them and then getting over them will really tough for you.

Tip 6. Deal with this psychological wound –

Some people think that there are not worth enough to be loved. I find that the ambitious people who failed to reach their goals somehow develop this type of psychological wound.

If you are suffering from this psychological wound then I have something beautiful to say you. You Deserve Someone Better Than Him or Her.

You might not belief on me because you are suffering from a psychological wound from a long time.

In my training material The Master Training Kit: How to Get Over Your Ex Within 14 Days I say that people suffer a lot from a breakup not because they love their ex so much; they suffer a lot just because they have so many psychological wounds which become fresh just after a breakup.

If people read psychology and manage to fix those wounds, then recovery from a breakup will be ten folds easier.

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About The Author

Alex J. Stevenson

Alex J. Stevenson isn't a PhD holder on psychology. However, he better understand how to use psychology in real life to forget an ex and feel good.   By doing so, he has helped thousands of men and women to get over their exes (see praise here).   If you've been struggling to get over your ex, get access to his training material The Master training Kit: How to Get Over Your Ex In 14 Days. He guarantees that you will recover from your breakup, or else your money will be refunded.


  • Elizabeth

    August 7, 2015

    I love this article….good and enlightening.

  • Alex J. Stevenson

    August 7, 2015

    Thanks for your comment. I am glad that you liked it :-).

  • Akryu

    October 7, 2016

    Some tips work for me but some didn’t,,
    still can’t stop loving her, even she didn’t love me.

  • Alex J. Stevenson

    November 27, 2016

    Apply more the tips which work for you. Soon you will find that the tips which were not working for you has started working for you. 🙂

    Good luck.

  • titiana

    December 23, 2016

    Hi, I have seen a number of articles online about the whole heartbreak thing. This, however, is the first time I have seen an article addressing the actual problem thanks to you.

    It was so not my mistake and perhaps he was just a compensation I was offering myself… I don’t need him, even if I do I prefer saying otherwise. Thanks and please keep writing

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